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Understanding The Batterer In Custody and Visitation Disputes

If you are involved in a custody battle with your abuser, ESPECIALLY if Child Protective Services has involved themselves in your life, this article is a must-read.

by R. Lundy Bancroft

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How pedophiles use “Patsy’s” to get away with child sexual abuse – Two True MUST READ Stories

(Trigger Warning: This post may contain information about the topic of sexual abuse that may be sensitive in nature to some readers )

I have thought about this article allot before writing it. This is very difficult.

I am not writing it to gain anything, but in hopes that someone reading it does. ..

gain knowledge…awareness…

the truth…

I don’t want anyone to go through this, but I know many will…

So maybe this will make a difference somewhere to someone…

somehow…

There’s a sad truth called sexual abuse that we really don’t want to talk about, but we must.

There are perpetrators of sexual abuse that we don’t ever want to know, but we do.

There are mistakes that are made and reality becomes something we don’t want to face, but we have no choice.

The truth is, children are sexually abused. There’s no sense ignoring it. It does not make it go away.

Sometimes the wrong person is blamed, and the abuser gets away with it….this does not necessarily happen because of an error in judgment, or a lack of concern, but something far more sinister…

It happens on purpose.

Yes, on purpose. By design; following a perpetrators methodical plan..with an end goal being to abuse more and to get away with it.

This article will show you how they do it, so you and i can possibly stop one of them.

Protect your child with open eyes.

The following two stories are true cases where this horrific type of situation occurred. I know this topic is a difficult one. It is disgusting, vile, immoral, and sad. It is still vitally important to talk about, even if we don’t want to. Why? Because cases like these that are not isolated. They happen all the time, and if the abuser has his way, it will happen again, on purpose.

Pedophiles and child molesters are everywhere. They look like anyone you meet. They prey on children, and, most of the time, the children know them.

The predator must rely on others to trust him, need him or fear him. without at least one of those elements, the predator cannot gain the compliance he needs to abuse. Sometimes the child even loves their abuser.

Sexual abuse destroys that innocent trust (and the ABILITY to trust) by exploiting the fears and needs of the victim. They intertwine themselves into their victims lives, devastate families, and change their victim into someone new.

They do all of this harm for their own sexual gratification, and their need to fulfill it, without getting caught.

They plot, plan, and seek out their victims. They must groom them -a process by which they slowly work with the victim until the predator feels confident they have gained the trust and silence of their victim before introducing the actual sexual abuse.

First they must find their victim, prepare their victim and then, finally, they abuse their victim. It’s a process.

Pedophiles are sick …and the sickness doesn’t go away..

They are notoriously incurable, and will usually re-offend, having more than one victims. Sex offenders who molest children have many traits in common, and when they are caught, you can bet they don’t get caught with their first victim, or on their first abuse. Usually they have had many victims prior to getting caught, or they have abused many times.

They do not rehabilitate very easily or very often, and did I mention, that most of the time, they will re-offend?

Abusers comes in all shapes, sizes, genders, race and with different preferences. Victims can and are both male and female alike. No one is immune. Do not be misconstrued about the appearance of a predator, they don’t always look like three monster they are.

The abuser is a predator and predators hunt. The predator is opportunistic. Like any predator on the hunt, if he sees the opportunities laid out before him, he will jump on it. Sometimes he must make his own opportunities. He must be-friend a child, or the parent of a child, in order to gain access to the child.

The predator loves to see an opportunity to have a ‘patsy’… another innocent person to take the blame for their abuse they are committing against a child. I have two such stories to tell you.

The end result of sexual abuse is tragic, and as you’ll read, the truth is sometimes not revealed until far too late.

Here is the story of a little girl ill call “Child A “-

Child A was 4 years old when the abuse began. Her abuser was her mother’s 2nd husband. Child A was born to parents who were teenagers. The couple had split up when she was 2 years of age, and found themselves caught in a bitter divorce and custody battle before they could even legally purchase alcohol. However the contention was not between the two of them, but the maternal grandmother had intervened and filed suit and she wanted custody.

The mother was only 16 when she got pregnant with child A, and out of selfless love for her daughter, she admitted she wasn’t ready to be a full time single mother. A bitter pill to swallow. The mother also knew that fighting in a custody battle would just add to the already volatile conflict.

The mother made the difficult decision to back up from the court battle. She settled for sporadic visitations on the 5th weekends of the months. She would have the ability to stay in contact with her daughter and be involved in school functions, advised of any pertinent health matters, etc etc. Since most months only had 4 weekends, this meant she only had possession of her daughter every few months for one weekend.. but she talked on the phone, had lunch at school with her, and stayed active in her child’s life.

The mother had a boyfriend who ultimately became her 2nd husband, the stepfather. They lived together when child A was 4 years old, so most of the time, he was there when her daughter would visit. The mother rarely, if ever, left her daughter alone with her boyfriend, not because she mistrustd him, but mainly because she cherished every minute she had with her.

At the time, the custody battle between her father and the maternal grandmother had reached a boiling point. It became brutal. The two adversaries were in and out of court on a regular basis. They fought over everything, seemingly petty issues. The temporary orders they were going by were ridiculously detailed. They fought over everything from child support, visitation, to cutting the child’s hair, piercing her ears, the clothes she wore between the two houses, even hair barrettes. You name it, they fought over it- and they were going back and forth to Court all the time to “clarify” the orders on any issue. Honestly, it was bad.

So when the maternal grandmother accused the father of sexual abuse, many people who knew the situation werent surprised. The child’s mother, always felt like the allegations were outlandish against her ex. She just believed it, at first, to be one more ridiculous ploy the grandmother came up with, designed to try to deprive the child’s father of custody.

A social worker was brought in to investigate, and the child made an outcry…

“My daddy hurt me with my white panties”….

Things got very real at that point. For everyone. Ploy or not, things went from ridiculously annoying to damn serious.

The little girl was subjected to sexual abuse exams and the mother and father was subjected to interrogations. The father was adamant in proclaiming his innocence, and he was terrified. He had remarried and begun a new family and these false allegations against him could possibly cost him his new family. He already lost jobs, spent untold amounts of money on attorneys, and endured strikes against his reputation. He suffered from the stress, and the unimaginable trauma of being falsely accused of the heinous crimes.

The allegations were severe but after investigations were complete, the allegations of sexual abuse was never substantiated against him.

The custody battle continued on for an unbelievable total of 14 years before it finally ended when the child was a teenager.

Ten years later… At age 14, child A had, four the first time, talked about her abuse. She told a friend from school about the sexual abuse committed against her a decade before by her stepfather, that began when she was four years old. Abuse that her father had been accused of… abuse that turned so many lives upside down..

How did this happen?

When the predator was abusing he saw an opportunity. He knew, due to the raging court battle between the father and the grandmother, that any sexual abuse allegations would easily come against the father and easily believed by others that the father had perpetrated the abuse. There was the perfect person or ‘patsy’ opportunity right before him. He knew the grandmother would jump to that conclusion and use it in court. He also knew, given the child’s young age, she was easily manipulated and not necessarily credible.

Child molesters are meticulous in their abusing routine. From the choosing of a victim to how they go about carrying out their abuse, they are methodical and deliberate, in all they do.

The abuser in this case called himself “daddy” to the little girl as he abused her. In doing so …he perfectly set up the situation so that when the outcry was initially made, it was made against her “daddy”… shifting all focus and blame to the child’s father.

By the time the child grew older, age 14, when she told her friend the true identity of her abuser, that friend went to the school counselor with the information. However the authorities and CPS did not see much reasoning in pursuing charges, insofar as much time had passed, and Child A was no longer at risk of being abused by that perpetrator, as he and her mother had long since split up. Both had moved on, with new spouses and other children, and were living new lives. Of course, for him, that meant new victims.

As I said earlier, by the time they are caught, it’s usually the first time they abuse a child. There’s usually several previous occasions or victims that they got away with. In this case, the perpetrator had moved on, remarried a woman with a little girl, and abused her for several years without incident. That is, until Child A told her friend who told the school. That launched a snowball effect which ultimately led to the investigation of this man and his relationship to his new stepdaughter. Eventually, that girl confided in a friend at her school in a note she wrote detailing the years of abuse. A note that was found by her mother, who took it to authorities.

He was finally caught.

That monster is serving several concurrent sentences of 40 years each, and a couple 20 year sentences, for his abuse against his stepdaughter that spanned almost 6 years. It is unlikely he will ever be released.

Child A’s father was finally vindicated.

The next story I’ll call Child B.

Child B was, once again, the subject of a bitter custody battle where allegations were made against the mother’s second husband. Although the investigations were unable to determine if the abuse occurred or by whom, the mother eventually signed over custody to her ex, to end the allegations against her new husband who she believed was innocent.

Years passed that the mother did not even get to see Child B. It was tragic.

Then one day news broke that the couple’s old next door neighbor is being looked at for sexual Abuse of another child. Thats when the mother realised it could have conceivably been their ex neighbor who abused Child B. That neighbor never liked Child B’s new husband, and was always interested in the status of the custody battle. He always seemed extra interested in Child B, spending time with her, but until the confusion of the custody battle passed and the new realizations came out several years later, the mother had not seen the signs.

Child B is a case still unresolved. The trauma the like girl endured was severe. It’s taken many Year’s for her to regain a sense of normalcy and to begin thriving again.

Almost ten years old now, Child B has reached a good point in her life where she is healthy again. The mother has gotten back some visitations with her daughter, and both mother and father have decided not to discuss the abuse with her. Hopefully when Child B is ready, she will talk about it. They will continue to monitor the situation with their old neighbor from afar, and they were hopeful that the truth will be found without reopening any traumatic investigations in Child B’s now thriving life. They simply feel it would prove too much for the girl.

Her stepfather, however, has finally been vindicated.

So as you can see, these predators will take the opportunities they see to abuse.

This can be prevented by staying vigilant, eyes wide open, to everyone whose in your life. Use discretion when sharing information about situations you may be going thru, like custody battles or marital problems. Keep those things to yourself. Pay attention to anyone showing unusually high interest in your child, making readings to be alone with your child, offering rides, or to babysit. Takes notice of anyone who seems interested only in the Child, and not in adult company. Who seems to want to become closely knit in the Child’s life. Don’t discount anyone it can be a neighbor, coach, family friend, or even a family member. Keep your eyes open and communicate with your child about whose around them. Teach them what’s appropriate and not inappropriate and let them know you are the for them. Make them feel safe to talk to you should anything happen.

Hopefully this will never be a reality for your family, but if it does come to your door, remember to always keep aware of your child’s surroundings. Don’t let the moments focus you in the wrong direction. If the wrong person gets accused, the real predator gets away with it, and continues to abuse.

Godspeed.

Collin County, Texas
Convicted Sex Offender Sentenced To 30 Years In Prison On Child Porn Conviction

Convicted Sex Offender Sentenced To 30 Years In Prison On Child Porn Conviction
http://dfw.cbslocal.com/2015/12/21/convicted-sex-offender-sentenced-to-30-years-in-prison-on-child-porn-conviction/

Now this monster is given 30 years for child porn,??! What did they ignore the fact that he had been convicted not once but twice before?? Was he registered properly? On Parole? 

Also, in order to get access to kids at McDonald’s where he worked at, there had to be something of a red flag!!

If I were the victim I’d sue the living hell out of someone when I became of age. I mean.where were the kids parents? I had children,we went to McDonald’s, they didn’t leave my sight. Nevermind enough time to be victimized.

Where was his coworkers or team leaders to notice him interacting with kids??  If he’d been caught before he shouldn’t have been allowed near a McDonald’s it’s a place where kids gather.

Not near parks or schools or anywhere known for having a playground.

How’s it that MacDonalds hired him to begin with if he’s a sex offender? Hrm…

Besides that, why does it have to take three times before they realize this type of offense is a sickness?

By the time the pedophile is caught on the first offense, it’s pretty much safe to assume he got caught after many times of not being caught. Who knows the number of victims trailed behind that will never be named.

Then again, Collin County CPS and Judges had sided with the child molester in my case to cover their assess when they messed up in the beginning of my case and didn’t want to admit it.

So…. Who knows. It’s disgusting.

Pedophiles are not criminals that rehabilitate, and I’m not sure they should be given the chance to THE FIRST TIME. When they decided to hurt a child they change that child into a different life they didn’t choose later on…many times continuing the cycle of abuse becoming like their abusers.

Children need to trust and not be violated and those who cross that line one time should be sentenced to mandatory maximum sentences and castrated  ..no second chances.or third.

Just my opinion. Glad this guy’s off the street. Keep em locked up!!

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Names of top politicians, royal aides and a famous pop star on list seized by police investigating child paedophile ring at suburban B&B

Names of top politicians, royal aides and a famous pop star on list seized by police investigating child paedophile ring at suburban B&B

  • List found among documents after raid at the home of former child protection worker

By DAILY MAIL REPORTER

PUBLISHED: 07:57 EST, 20 January 2013 | UPDATED: 08:05 EST, 20 January 2013

MP Tom Watson sparked the police investigation into child abuse at a guest house after a speech into the CommonsMP Tom Watson sparked the police investigation into child abuse at a guest house after a speech into the Commons

Police investigating allegations of a child paedophile network have seized a list naming  top politicians, members of the royal household and a world-renowned pop star, it was reported today.

They were allegedly visitors to a bed and breakfast guest house which operated as a brothel where youngsters were abused at gay sex parties.

The names were recorded on a handwritten note found by police at the North London home of child protection worker Mary Moss during a raid.

She had initially declined to co-operate with the investigation. Documents and a laptop were seized and Ms Moss later handed over other 19 files she had put in a neighbor’s shed.

The papers include a list of men who went to sex parties in the 80’s at the Elm Guest House, in Barnes, south west London.

Among them were two former Conservative Cabinet ministers, four other senior Tories, a Labour MP, a prominent Irish republican and a leading National Front member, according to the Sunday People.

The note also allegedly names two members of the royal household – one a former Buckingham Palace employee – plus the owner of a multinational company and two pop stars.

One of those is a best-selling musician, but like some others on the list he is not suspected of being involved in any child abuse.

Linked to a sex ring: MP Sir Cyril Smith
Linked to a sex ring scandal Anthony Blunt

Linked to child sex scandals: Liberal MP Sir Cyril Smith and disgraced traitor Anthony Blunt

The list emerged at meetings in 1988 between child protection officials and the guest house’s manager Carole Kasir, who died aged 47, two years later from a suspected overdose.

The paper said that 16 boys from nearby Grafton Close council home were allegedly trafficked to the guest house and abused.

Now detectives are to check social services records from Richmond, Wandsworth, Hammersmith and Fulham, and Hounslow.

Officers will also be examining copies of cash receipts and ­the guest house’s visitor records.

Famous names linked to child sex rings include Liberal MP Cyril Smith in Rochdale and disgraced traitor Anthony Blunt, the former Keeper of the Queen’s Pictures.

A complaint by Labour MP Tom Watson during a speech in the House of Commons sparked Operation Fernbridge. He claimed a paedophile ring used high-level connections to escape justice.

Ms Moss told the People: ‘They [police] were friendly enough but I thought it was heavy handed and a complete violation of my ­privacy..

The Met confirmed their statement to the Mail Online. ‘The investigation will be led by the Child Abuse Investigation Command.

‘The allegations under Operation Fernbridge were initially assessed under Operation Fairbank, which was from information passed to police by Mr Tom Watson.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2265371/Names-politicians-royal-aides-famous-pop-star-list-seized-police-investigating-child-paedophile-ring-suburban-B-amp-B-guest-house.html#ixzz2J0byL19R

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Pfizer Global Patent Director’s Child Pornography Charges

Pfizer Global Patent Director’s Child Pornography Charges

U.S. V. ALAN HESKETH (U.S. Dist. Ct., Conn., March 28, 2008) – In newly-released documents, Pfizer’s Global Patent Director was charged with trading child pornography images with another criminal suspect. According to the criminal complaint, he allegedly accessed the computer account used for such activity while at Pfizer headquarters in New York City, a hotel, and his home in Connecticut.

Click here to view the actual court documents in this case.

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