An Uplifting Ray of Hope: California Foster Kids’ Wishes Coming True (and how you can get involved too)

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Santa visited Kern County a little early to kick off the Department of Human Services’ Holiday Cottage .

It’s their 35th year granting foster kids’ holiday gift wishes.

“Although the holidays can be lonely, we want to make sure our foster kids feel appreciated, wanted and more importantly, loved,” Director of Human Services Li Tomorillo.

 former foster youth was given a living room set. She spoke on the impact the gifts can make.

“It’s an amazing feeling to know that there are people in the community who didn’t know who I was but were able to give something like this,” she said. ”I encourage you all to continue helping children in foster care. It goes a long way letting them know you are thinking of them and you care for them.”

D.H.S. said they’ve been able to grant every wish every year so far, thanks to the community’s generosity.

“The Holiday Cottage works because of everyone’s compassion and it works because of everyone’s generosity,” said Tomorillo.

They’re working to fulfill 1,100 foster children’s wishes this year. Through the end of November, you can make a monetary donation or choose a specific child’s gift you’d like to purchase.

Click here to do so.

Like other counties, Kern Public Health skips report on child deaths, citing lack of resources

MBy ISHANI DESAI

idesai@bakersfield.com

9 hrs ago Moon-shaped bruises marred a 5-year-old boy’s backside from “owies,” he told a social worker, according to a case report written by a Kern County Sheriff’s Office deputy from an interview between the child and a social worker. The boy marked three X’s on a body diagram using a dark red crayon to show where he said his father, Mister Bailey, struck him. With a green crayon and a black crayon, the boy drew a belt in the page’s corner, according to the deputy’s report, which was filed in Kern County Superior Court.Bailey flipped him upside down and used that belt to “whoop him,” the boy said, according to the reports filed in court.

He closed his fist to demonstrate how Bailey punched him in the face about 10 times, according to the documents. Sabrina Martinez, the boy’s mother, also beat his face around 19 times, the child told the social worker.

(The boy) “does not know why his mom … hits him in the face, and he does not like being hit in the face,” the deputy wrote in his report.Then the social worker told the 5-year-old about blood at his Tehachapi house, where he lived with his 3-month-old brother and a sister, the reports said. She asked where it came from, the reports state.“My, my brother’s dead,” the boy replied, according to the reports.

Bailey and Martinez were charged in the 3-month-old’s 2020 death and several child cruelty charges. They are scheduled for a pre-preliminary hearing in January to determine if the case will proceed to a preliminary hearing.

Child Death Review Team

Dozens of children die every year in Kern County, and if the coroner refers a case to what’s know as the Child Death Review Team, then the incident is studied by local first responder agencies and researchers to determine what went wrong.In past years, this team released an annual public report about its findings.

Collecting and discussing data about child fatalities are critical for agencies to thoroughly understand the causes behind deaths, local trends and preventing future mistreatment, according to child advocates. But the Kern County Public Health Services Department, which is tasked with creating and compiling the report, hasn’t put one together since its 2019 release that looked at 2018 deaths.

The number of child fatalities in Kern is higher than California’s average, according to data compiled by kidsdata.org, an online database for children’s health.

The death of the 3-month-old would have been examined in this report. “Without some of that information, it’s really difficult to dig in to know” how to make changes to reduce fatalities, said Jessica Haspel, the associate director of child welfare with Children Now, a nonpartisan nonprofit focused on elevating children’s issues through advocacy.

Haspel spoke generally about child death review teams throughout California and not about Kern County’s policies specifically. She added it’s difficult to know the pandemic’s effect on child abuse throughout the state without data.“These child death review teams are the glue that holds everything together because they are interdisciplinary,” said Dr. Jeoffry Gordon, a retired family physician who advocates for child welfare.County public health’s response

Public Health spokeswoman Michelle Corson wrote in a Thursday email the COVID-19 pandemic “significantly impacted” operations of all participating Child Death Review Team agencies.Corson wrote in a March email that all staff were diverted to “COVID-19 duties” shortly after the pandemic began.

“While there hasn’t been a report released in the last (two) years, throughout the pandemic (Child Death Review Team) meetings continued and cases were reviewed,”

Corson continued in her email Thursday.Corson added in that email the staff is developing reports from the “impacted times” and should present them to the county’s Board of Supervisors “within the next couple of months.”

The last report was issued in December 2019.Inquiries into similar reports by child death review teams in other California counties’ shows Kern Public Health isn’t alone in forgoing public releases.Tulare County doesn’t have a child death review team and Marin County does “not issue public reports” but does track all child deaths, according to the counties’ respective spokeswomen.

Kings County hasn’t issued a child death review team report in “a while” because of COVID-19, said Everado Legaspi, a program manager with the Kings County Public Health Department.Legaspi added the department is looking into reconvening a child death review team, but it is “a pretty small department.” He also couldn’t find a child death review team report on his “servers.

”Santa Clara County released its latest child death review report in 2020 about data from 2018. Los Angeles County released its latest report in 2021.Corson wrote that Kern Public Health addresses preventing child deaths by launching initiatives such as the water watchers campaign to teach parents about watching children playing in and around pools, free and accessible hands-only CPR training and a “safe baby, safe child” conference, which happened in October.

That conference focused on health education regarding sudden infant death syndrome, adolescent suicide and fentanyl use, she added.Tom Corson, head of the Kern County Network for Children, did not respond to a request for comment. The Kern County Network for Children advocates for kids, and is a member of the Child Death Review Team.

Other team members include the Bakersfield Police Department, the Kern County coroner’s office, the Kern County District Attorney’s Office, Bakersfield Memorial Hospital, Kern County Sheriff’s Office, the Kern County Department of Human Services and others.

Exchange ideas, thoughts

The child death review team was created in the early 1980s, and participants are not mandated to convene under the state law that outlines the team’s creation.

A broad range of experts, such as forensic pathologists, pediatricians who have experience dealing with child abuse cases and criminologists, should collaborate and release reports, according to California law. State agencies should track local data on child deaths, according to the law.

“They each bring a piece to solve the puzzle,” Colleen Friend, director of the Child Abuse and Family Violence Institute at Cal State Los Angeles, said of an interagency effort.

“… And often these things are very complicated. Often, a coroner or a DA might bring something that a protective service worker would not.”Past Kern County reports parsed out deaths as preventable or accidental, and whether the death was a homicide.

They laid out solutions for separate agencies and social workers to prevent child deaths.The intent was to create a “body of information” to prevent child deaths, the law said.Ruby Guillen, who sits on a citizen review panel aiming to prevent child abuse and critical incidents and is part of Los Angeles’ version of the child death review team, said a typical meeting in L.A. might include inviting the people investigating a child death and trying to figure out what happened.

Guillen is part of the Inter-Agency Council on Child Abuse and Neglect, an independent body that develops and coordinates services for the prevention, identification and treatment of child abuse in L.A. County.

The purpose isn’t to chastise, or to make a person feel stupid, she said. She’s learned a red flag for child abuse could be broken bones, and suspicions shouldn’t be disregarded because those injuries could lead to death.

“If you want to reduce fatalities, we need to partner and we need to engage,” Guillen said. “We need to exchange ideas, thoughts. Again, it’s all about learning. You have to only learn by knowledge.”Necessary reforms

Friend wasn’t surprised when told about Kern Public Health and others skipping out on the child death review team reports. She said a lack of money could contribute to counties failing to compile them.

Child death review teams relied on the Legislature providing dollars to establish these processes. However, the National Center for Fatality Review & Prevention notes the state’s child death review team was disbanded in 2008 when funds were taken away.

Corson, the Kern Public Health spokeswoman, said the county does not get funding for releasing its Child Death Review Team reports.

Gordon, the retired physician, added data is sparse across the state — the Department of Social Services was required to release a report detailing child fatalities, but has failed to do so since 2016. That data could shape policies from lawmakers, experts agreed.

Establishing a network of data will allow child deaths to be reduced, Gordon said. .

A surveillance network was created to watch births to develop new protocols about safety. California’s maternal mortality rate is the lowest in the nation as a result, Gordon said .

“Nobody in the state of California can tell you how many children under 18 died at the hands of their parents or caregivers last year,” Gordon said. “Period. Nobody. Nobody has access to real data.”

Assembly Bill 2660, which was vetoed by Gov. Gavin Newsom in 2022, sought to make child death review teams mandatory across the state to track this information. Newsom wrote in his veto message the program was too expensive. Gordon disagreed.

“One hunded-plus kids … die every year … (and) it’s a low priority for the state,” Gordon said.

“To me, it’s an atrocious, horrible circumstance.”A spokesperson for Newsom’s office linked to AB 2660’s veto message in response to The Californian’s questions about his veto and steps to reduce child deaths.

“There can be helpful, remedial efforts put in to make the system work,” Gordon said.

“It’s not very expensive. It’s just been overlooked since 2008 (when the statewide program was defunded).”You can reach Ishani Desai at 661-395-7417. You can also follow her at @_ishanidesai on Twitter.

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California Governor signs law making it harder for CPS to seek child support from parents

Governor Gavin Newsom signed a bill into law last month that would limit county child welfare agencies (CPS) from seeking child support from parents.

Assembly Bill 1686, authored by Los Angeles state Assembly member Isaac Bryan, encourages counties to avoid seeking child support payments from parents whose children are in the child welfare system.

Michelle Chan, a founder of California Families Rise, lobbied for the bill with impacted parents in the months leading up to the bill being signed into law.California Families Rise is an advocacy organization that represents and lobbies for child welfare system-impacted parents and family members.

“All of the parents that came and supported made a difference,” Chan said.

“This is a mess from the California State legislature and the Governor that our needs are being listened to,” Chan said.

AB 1686 states that

when the county child welfare department determines that it is not in the best interest of the child to seek a support order against the parent, the county child welfare department shall refrain from referring the case to the local child support agency.”

This law is not binding, meaning that to seek child support from parents, the county must prove it is not a burden to the parents or unnecessarily extends the child’s time in the welfare system.

Research shows that for every $100 parents pay towards foster care costs, their child’s duration in care lengthens by about six months.

The effects are especially pronounced for Black families and as you are likely aware, Black families are dramatically over-represented in California’s child welfare system.

Assembly member Bryan said that current practice exacerbates poverty and reduces the likelihood of positive family outcomes.

“Part of what we’re doing as state legislators is to stop this punishment and criminalization of poverty,” Bryan said via telephone.

According to a legislative analysis of the bill, more than 14,000 parents whose children have been removed to foster care are required to repay the cost of their child’s stay in care.

the federal child welfare authorities no longer demand that counties make the parents pay child support.

“They’ve changed the rules altogether,” Bryan said.

“They’re working to codify it in legislation.”

The Department of Child Support Services argued that millions of dollars would be lost as a result of a decrease in child support payments.

While the exact impact of the reduction is unknown, an assumed reduction in child support collections would result in a loss of approximately $4.24 million ($1.44 million General Funds revenue) in annual collections.

Bryan argued that counties only recover 27 cents of every dollar that they tried to collect and essentially are wasting resources doing so.

“In effect we’ve lessened the financial burden on struggling families, increased the likelihood of children reunifying with their parents and we save the counties money,” Bryan said.

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Philadelphia DHS worker arrested, charged in connection to toddler’s death

Some accountability in CPS

Kiana Casey, 21, is charged in the death of a 3-year-old girl who was in her care. (Philadelphia Police Department )

Authorities say five people were hurt when nearly 100 shots were fired near a playground in West Philadelphia on Tuesday night. 

A child welfare caseworker turned herself in to Philadelphia police to face charges in connection with the death of a 3-year-old girl from July.

On Monday, Jendayi Mawusi, 25, surrendered to police and was charged with third-degree murder, involuntary manslaughter and endangering the welfare of a child with her involvement in the death of Hope Jones. 

Mawusi was the contracted social worker in charge of monitoring the welfare of the child while under the supervision of Jones’ foster parent, Kiana Casey.

Mawusi’s final visit to Casey’s home as a Case Manager was on July 12, 2022 – shortly before emergency responders were called to the home and tried heroically to save 3-year-old Hope Jones’s life.”

The Philadelphia District Attorney’s Office said on Tuesday

“As a Case Manager, Mawusi was a state-mandated reporter, meaning she was legally obligated to make a report if she had reasonable cause to suspect that Jones was a victim of child abuse. We allege that Mawusi repeatedly failed to investigate and intervene during what should have been obvious signs of physical harm inflicted on Hope Jones during her tragically short life.”

On July 23, Philadelphia Police were called to Casey’s home. Authorities found 3-year-old Jones unconscious. Police rushed her to a local hospital, but she was pronounced dead a short time later.

A Philadelphia Medical Examiner later determined that the cause of Jones’s death was blunt force trauma.

An autopsy found that Jones had numerous contusions and hemorrhages across her body, particularly on her arms and legs.

The medical examiner’s report concluded that the injuries were in various stages of healing at the time of her death, indicating that she had been severely abused and assaulted on multiple occasions.

In July, Casey, was charged third-degree murder, aggravated assault of a child, and endangering the welfare of a child.

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Lawsuit Filed Against Tulare and Kern County, CA by Former Foster Child For Kidnapping and Molestation

Well this is interesting... definitely a case to follow. What are you thoughts? Leave a comment below and let us know.

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Plaintiff, Jamyson Harris filed a lawsuit against Tulare and Kern county in California. Case number 18-cv-00699-LJO-BAM.

Allegations include kidnapping and child molestation.

In the fall of 1991, Jamyson, along with his brother and sisters were taken into Tulare county social services in Porterville, California. By their mother’s roommates. The roommates falsely accused their mother of abandoning and abusing her children.

This was while their mother was out of town moving into their new home.

While living in a foster home with his sisters. Jamyson alleges he was sexually molested by their foster mom. Then placed on heavy psychotropic drugs, kicked out and he had to shuffle from foster home to foster home. Until finally he was shipped off to another county across the state of California.

Both Tulare and Kern county are not denying or challenging what has happened as of yet. Both counties are just challenging the statute of limitations.

According to Government Code Section 911.6. Under some circumstances a late claim shall be granted. My claim qualifies because of circumstances 1-3 of the government code 911.6.

(b) The board shall grant the application where one or more of the following is applicable:

(1) The failure to present the claim was through mistake, inadvertence, surprise or excusable neglect and the public entity was not prejudiced in its defense of the claim by the failure to present the claim within the time specified in Section 911.2.

(2) The person who sustained the alleged injury, damage or loss was a minor during all of the time specified in Section 911.2 for the presentation of the claim.

(3) The person who sustained the alleged injury, damage or loss was physically or mentally incapacitated during all of the time specified in Section 911.2 for the presentation of the claim and by reason of such disability failed to present a claim during such time.

The plaintiff alleges, they were placed in foster care by mistake and neglect. Because their mother’s roommates lied to the county and the county social workers didn’t do their job.

“They just went with the lie and forced us to go along with the lie.” Jamyson said. “We didn’t know our 4th and 14th amendment rights were being violated. We were just minors, with no defense and our mother was gone Nobody cared. One side wanted us gone. The other side was getting paid to do it. There was no real due process for our mother. ” Jamyson continued.

Jamyson, is currently working with his therapist to gather evidence to support circumstance number three. Jamyson claims he was mentally incapable of presenting a claim in time. Because according to his therapist the trauma from being kidnapped, sexually abused and being placed on the medication. He dissociated himself from what happened and the damage was so bad. By the time Jamyson was taken off the medications. His memory was so scattered he had completely forgotten why he was really in foster care.

What do you think? Do you think the statutes of limitations should be lifted? For more info on this case go to pacer.gov and search for case number 1:18-cv-00699-LJO-BAM

If you would like to help. A gofundme account has been set up to help pay for legal expenses. Click link below to donate. https://www.gofundme.com/I-was-in-foster-care-illegally?member=462128

The history of child actors

if you find this topic interesting, which I hope you will, I urge you to read my post called My HISTORY of CHILD ACTING. (check back and this link will be live when it’s finished).

I will be detailing my childhood experiences that are mostly untold due to the vast amount of trauma I endured. Peggy Akin, my birth mother, had a dream she expected me to fulfill and in doing so, she not only stole my childhood, my money, but later in life, my son, and my adulthood.

Years before she and a child molester kidnapped my son, ruining my adult life, she robbed me of my 3 brothers and my father, stole my innocence and tainted and erased all the memories I might of had of a family.

All of this was against the law. She did not care and to this day, she shows no remorse. For that reason, I am not holding back.

In my opinion, Peggy Akin belongs in jail.


The history of Child Acting

Available at: https://lawpublications.barry.edu/cflj/vol8/iss1/4

Cinema has played an integral role in society since its inception in the early 1900s.

With the development of motion picture film production, film has become a staple in society, reflecting current social and cultural attitudes of the time. The first child actor, Jackie Coogan, at the young age of seven appeared on film alongside Charlie Chaplin in The Kid in 1921.

Coogan’s success would come to make him “the youngest person in history to earn a million dollars.

Earning roughly four million dollars during his career, Coogan would come to only receive roughly two thousand dollars after his earnings were seized and spent by his mother and stepfather.

Having realized the extent of “Jackie-mania” that had engulfed the nation and the amount of money Coogan had generated in his career, Coogan sued his mother in 1938.

Coogan alleged that when he had confronted his mother about his missing wages, his mother had stated: “No promises were ever made to give Jackie anything. Every dollar a kid earns before he is twenty-one belongs to his parents.”

The court ultimately decided in Coogan’s favor, however Coogan would only come to recover a relatively “small portion of his earnings.”

In response to the atrocities experienced by Coogan, California would go on to pass the Coogan Law in 1939 in order to change California’s prior law allowing the parents sole ownership of the earnings of a minor.

“Such exploitation of child actors led to the California legislature passing the Coogan Act in 1939, which was intended to protect acting children’s assets.”

The Coogan Law, codified in the California Code, requires that a trust be established “for the purpose of preserving for the benefit of the minor the portion of the minor’s gross earnings.”

The code thereby “creates a fiduciary relationship between the parent and the child.”

Coogan’s Law mandates that the trustee “shall establish the trust pursuant to this section within seven business days after the minor’s contract is signed by the minor, the third–party individual or personal services corporation (loan–out company), and the employer.”

The Coogan Trust provides “no withdrawal by the beneficiary or any other individual, individuals, entity, or entities may be made of funds on deposit in trust without written order of the superior court.”

This provision remains in effect until the minor reaches the age of eighteen, and funds will only be released after providing “a certified copy of the beneficiary’s birth certificate to the financial institution where the trust is located.”

Although the Coogan Law aimed to prevent children’s wages from being wrongful consumed by the parents, the law only affected children performers in California and did not address any other issues besides issue of ownership of wages.

The Coogan law additionally did not discuss the potential conflict of interest that could potentially arise from the parent also being the trustee of the child’s trust.

Even with the plight of Coogan, that did not stop the influx of children actors that followed in his footsteps.

In the years following Coogan, Shirley Temple would break onto the Hollywood scene in the early 1930s. However, “before she made her big Hollywood debut in 1934, at the age of [five], she starred in ‘Baby Burlesks’, a very odd short film series that featured a bunch of toddlers in diapers acting out creepily grown-up plots.”

In her first speaking role in War Babies, three-year-old Temple stars as an “exotic dancer in a bar for soldiers, where she wiggles around in a little off-the-shoulder number, ogled by shirtless toddlers playing ‘army men’ with big safety pins in their diapers,” gaining her first onscreen kiss before the age of five.

(warning, some viewers might find this film disturbing)

Another film in the series, Polly Tix in Washington, features a four-year-old Temple “wearing a little bra and filing her nails when she gets a phone call from a top-hat wearing toddler telling her to go seduce a Senator to ‘get him to work.’

She walks in and greets the senator draped in pearls saying she’s been sent to ‘entertain’ him.”

(warning some viewers might find this film disturbing)

Temple garnished love from the public and politicians alike, with even President Franklin D. Roosevelt commenting on her impact on society.

The President expressed that Temple’s on screen presence was a necessity during the time of the Great Depression, going on to state:

“When the spirit of the people is lower than at any time during this Depression, it is a splendid thing that for just fifteen cents an American can go to a movie and look at the smiling face of a baby and forget his troubles.”

Shirley Temple’s rise to fame occurred during the time of the Great Depression, a time where society’s stance on child labor had shifted greatly. Motivating society, however, was mostly grounded in “the desire of of Americans in a period of high unemployment to open jobs held by children to adults.”

The President’s sentiments towards Temple and the cinematic industry would come to shape the implementation of the Fair Labor Standards Act.

Pressured by the public, President Roosevelt “sent Congress a special message proposing federal regulation to solve the problem of child labor, as well as set minimum wages and maximum work hours.”

However, President Roosevelt did not propose a uniform, national standard to encompass all areas of child labor, and instead specifically distinguished that certain differentiations would exist between different industries; one of these industries being children performers.

As a result of the message proposed by President Roosevelt, Congress would have to consider whether a total ban on child labor would be instituted or if, as the President suggested, it would be best for the federal government to regulate “oppressive” child labor and leave other areas of child labor to the discretion of the states.

One Representative would come to weigh in on the matter, by introducing “the exemption on the floor of Congress.” Representative Charles Paul Kramer stated:

The ability to perform in motion pictures requires an intellectual gift and quality, something which is born in the exceptional child. Not only the motion picture industry but the movie-going public would be denied much pleasure and enjoyment if children were barred from the screen. The old and young are delighted with the unassuming appeal of America’s little sweetheart, Shirley Temple. . .

These sentiments, mirroring the current public policy of the time, urged Congress to pass the so-called Shirley Temple Act.39 Congress would come to determine that child acting did not rise to the level of “oppressive child labor” and that child acting had a “positive contribution to the nation’s cultural and economic life”; thereby not arising to the level needed to require federal regulation.

However, that does not mean that everyone felt that child acting should be excluded from the Act’s provisions. “Robert H. Jackson of the Justice Department condemned the negative effect of child labor on national labor standards in that one state could subvert the nation’s labor standards by allowing child labor within its borders.

“Due to this exception from federal labor laws for child performers, states are left to draft their own statutes for regulating the treatment, protection, and experiences of child performers.”

Shirley Temple continued her career in the spotlight until the age of twenty-two, after a decline in her popularity.

Both Coogan and Temple rose to fame early in the development of the moving picture film industry and although both, and many others, experienced many issues, that did not stop others from following in their footsteps.

The Federal Labor Standards Act, although amended several times, still exempts children performers from its protections and leaves each state to dictate the rules and regulations the performers are bound by. Additionally, when the Act was developed there were certain technologies currently available now, that were unavailable at the time the Act was considered.

The biggest development since the introduction of the act is the widespread usage of the internet, where anyone can upload anything at any time.

This freedom to upload has led to a development in the amount of ways entertainment can be produced and distributed, while being compensated.

These areas of production are not covered by many state codes, including children actors performing on monetized social media platforms such as YouTube.


For more on this subject please visit the link below to read The Children of YouTube: How an Entertainment Industry Goes Around Child Labor Laws .

Guzman, J.D., Neyza (2020) “The Children of YouTube: How an Entertainment Industry Goes Around Child Labor Laws,” Child and Family Law Journal: Vol. 8 : Iss. 1 , Article 4.

Available at: https://lawpublications.barry.edu/cflj/vol8/iss1/4


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To My Mother: Betrayal I Learned Best From You

What Is Betrayal Trauma?

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verywellmind.com – 3 days ago

What Is Betrayal Trauma?

You may feel betrayed when someone hurts you or breaks your trust. However, the betrayal can be traumatic if it’s someone close to you, or someone you depend on to care for you.

“This type of trauma usually relates to primary attachment figures like a parent, caregiver, or other important relationship from childhood. In adulthood, it tends to repeat among romantic partners,” says Dr. Romanoff.

This article explores the causes, symptoms, and impact of betrayal trauma, as well as some coping mechanisms that may be helpful.

Origin of the Betrayal Trauma Theory

The betrayal trauma theory was proposed in 1991 by Jennifer Freyd, PhD, an American psychology researcher, author, and educator.

According to the theory, someone may experience betrayal trauma when:

  • They are terrified, sometimes for their physical safety or their life.
  • They are betrayed by someone who they depend on for survival, such as a parent or caregiver, whom they rely on food, shelter, and other basic needs.

Furthermore, if the child processes the betrayal normally, they may start to avoid the caregiver and stop interacting with them. However, the theory notes that the child may be more likely to block the abuse or betrayal from their mind and develop amnesia of sorts, if they are dependent on the caregiver for their daily needs and survival. The child is essentially forced to ignore the betrayal in order to maintain their relationship with their caregiver and survive.

Impact and Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma

Below, Dr. Romanoff explains the impact of betrayal trauma and the symptoms a person may experience as a result.

Impact of Betrayal Trauma

In the instance of a parent or caregiver who is abusive or acts in a way that betrays a child’s trust, the child remains reliant on them even though the parent is no longer dependable or safe. This creates a complex relationship with primary attachment figures who are simultaneously providing harm and support.

These children may grow up to be adults who select partners who violate their needs in familiar ways. In order to reconcile the two opposites of people who provide harm and care, they tend to avoid processing damaging behavior, make excuses for it, fabricate fantasies to compensate for painful memories, or even blame themselves.

At the core, people who have experienced betrayal trauma tend to dissociate from the trauma. In turn, they struggle with the consequences of extreme dissociation of their emotions, feelings, and reactions to the trauma. Instead of dealing with things directly, they may tend to self-medicate with substances, food, relationships, sex, or other forms or distraction.

Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal trauma can have a severe impact on the person and cause them to experience symptoms or health conditions such as:

  • PTSD
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Dissociation
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Emotional dysregulation
  • Trust and relationship issues
  • Physical pain and gastrointestinal issues
  • Substance abuse

Causes of Betrayal Trauma

Below, Dr. Romanoff explains some of the causes of betrayal trauma, in childhood and adulthood.

Childhood Trauma

Abuse experienced in childhood is one of the most common causes of betrayal trauma. It can include physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional abuse.

Trauma in Adulthood

In adulthood, betrayal trauma is usually experienced in relationships with intimate partners, especially if a person has experienced trauma in the past. However, people may also experience betrayal trauma at the hands of others such as a close friend, colleague, or other person in their life.

Betrayal trauma in adulthood could look like:

  • Physical, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse
  • Infidelity
  • Revelations of financial problems or significant debt
  • Ulterior motives or other secretive behaviors

Coping With Betrayal Trauma

If you have experienced betrayal trauma, Dr. Romanoff suggests some steps that can help you cope:

  • Acknowledge the betrayal: The first step is acknowledging how you were betrayed and hurt. Be honest with yourself and consider the impact of the betrayal on the relationship and your life.
  • Write your feelings in a journal: You may find relief through writing down your feelings in a journal. It can help you identify the emotions you’re experiencing and create space to reflect on them, instead of suppressing or avoiding them.
  • Process your emotions: Confronting the trauma you experienced in the past can bring up a lot of emotions, including grief, fear, anger, regret, loss, and anxiety. It’s important to process these emotions so you can start healing.
  • Seek support or treatment: It is also helpful to seek support by talking with a friend or therapist. People who have experienced betrayal trauma often feel like they can only rely on themselves and tend to isolate themselves when they are betrayed. Instead, it is important to do the opposite and reach out for support or treatment
  • Set boundaries: If the person who betrayed you is still in your life in some capacity, set firm boundaries in your relationship with them to protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.
  • Recognize patterns: If you have experienced betrayal trauma in the past, it’s important to recognize whether it’s affecting your relationships in the present. Understand that you deserve to have relationships that are mutually supportive and beneficial.

A Word From Verywell

Being abused or betrayed by someone you’re close to or someone you depend on can be devastating. It can affect all your subsequent relationships and take a toll on your mental and physical health.

It’s important to address the betrayal you faced, process it, and take steps toward healing and self-care.

So Collin County got Themselves a Pedophile Ring… Operation “Home Alone” Busts The Predators in Dallas Suburb

Note: My first thought was well well well… They didn’t care when I needed them to do something but at least now they did care…. And did something about the predators in their crooked lovely little county… Way to go guys!!

*Meh*

COLLIN COUNTY (CBSDFW.COM) – The Collin County Sheriff’s Office arrested 15 people during its two day ‘Operation Home Alone’.From March 22 – 24, 2022, the Collin County Sheriff’s Office conducted “Operation Home Alone.”

The undercover operation targeted suspects who allegedly use the internet to prey upon adolescent children.Sheriff’s investigators, in collaboration with agents from the Texas Department of Public Safety, Texas Attorney General’s Office, Ellis County Sheriff’s Office, Mount Pleasant Police Department, and the Mississippi Bureau of Investigation worked together.

“I want to thank the investigators who participated in this operation for their hard work and dedication to bring this group of sexual predators to justice.

These predators are very sophisticated in their use of technology and exploit online forums to target and communicate with children,” said Collin County Sheriff Jim Skinner.

“Parents must engage with their children about their devices and how they use them – and please report any suspicious activity to your nearest law enforcement agency.

Here in Collin County, we will continue to do what is necessary to protect our children.

“Eleven men were charged with online solicitation of a minor, four were charged with prostitution of a person less than 18 years of age, one man was charged with sexual performance of a child and another was charged with possession of child pornography.During the operation, investigators seized a large number of electronic devices that were used by these individuals to commit their crimes.

These devices will undergo forensic examination which may result in additional criminal charges being filed.

In all seriousness I’m happy they’ve done their job to get these people away from kids so I don’t want to sound too cynical… That being said in my eternal grief I can’t help but wish they’d done the same for my children when they were victimized In today’s times it seems like the pedophiles are getting the green light from the powers that be, and it’s good to know at least these guys aren’t getting that. …

Of course innocent until convicted still applies. Even monsters deserve due process.