Day: November 17, 2018

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Family believes bullying, ADHD medication played role in 9-year-old girl’s suicide
A 9 year old CHILD should NEVER have suicidal ideations!STOP drugging children and give them love and appropriate discipline instead. Give them direction in life, lead them by being a good example. 

Give them self esteem and goals in life. Give them hope ..

I remember when I was told by CPS that my son, who was in foster care at the time, was having adverse reactions to psychotropic drugs they were giving him.  I was irate .

First of all my son had never taken psychotropic medications before foster care.

I do not believe psychotropic meds are good for kids in any situation! (or adults for that matter).

Second of all they were giving my son drugs after saying drugs was the reason they took him.

I said to the caseworker, “why are you drugging my child?”

” He’s very angry”, she answered.

” Well of course he is angry…” I began. ..

” You took him away from his home … I am angry too! You didn’t answer my question, why are you drugging my child?”

She pauses then sheepishly began talking ” Ms Murphy … let’s calm down and talk about your son’s anger…

“calm down? No! Let’s talk abou why the f*ck you are drugging my son? Did you call and talk to HIS REGULAR therapist not the so called CPS contract doctor?

did you send him to church? Did you? “

“Um no ma’am we cannot… we do not take children in foster homes to church”.

“Why not??” I demanded to know …

“We are not allowed to” she stated.

“Not allowed to?? But you ARE ALLOWED TO GIVE HIM DRUGS?”

She was stammering by now…”Ms Murphy-were trying to… we are here to help you…”

“No you’re not- I taught my son to turn to me with his problems or to pray about what’s bothering him…i taught him to stand still with God when he got angry, not to turn to drugs when he was angry.

Why are you teaching him to turn to drugs? are you trying to make him an addict? so you can take HIS kids from him one day too?? And you’re calling ME a bad parent? Really?”

I’ll never forget that conversation. so when I read about instances like this suicide I must share my experiences.

May peace find this child’s family.  

The parents of a 9-year-old Alabama girl who took her own life believe that bullying and ADHD medication played a role in her death.

According to AL.com,Madison “Maddie” Whittsett, of Birmingham, was pronounced dead at Children’s of Alabama Monday morning. The Friday before, her mother found her hanging in her bedroom closet.


“We don’t want this to happen to anyone else,’’ Madison’s stepfather, Birmingham Fire and Rescue Service Lt. Jimmie Williams, told AL.com.

“We talked to one of her friends and Maddie had apparently had a bad day. The friend said Maddie was bullied and she looked sad while she was being bullied,’’ Jimmie Williams said. “It must have really worn her out that day.”

Her mother, Eugenia Williams, said Maddie had been diagnosed with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and received one-on-one help at her school. There had been incidents in which other students called her “stupid” and “dumb” but her parents felt like the issue had been addressed.

Just a few weeks ago, Maddie’s parents said she had been started on a medication to help with her ADHD that listed a side effect of possibly causing suicidal thoughts.

“The bullying plus the medicine, I think, gave her the boost to do that,’’ Jimmie Williams said.

The Williams hope Maddie’s story will help other parents.

“Maybe you can see if anything is going on. Look for changes in attitude. Changes in behavior,’’ Jimmie Williams said. “Support them and be there for them.”

He also hopes children will let adults know if they see a peer being bullied: “Like they always say, ‘If you see something, say something.’’’

Birmingham City Schools released this statement Tuesday afternoon: “Our school community is deeply saddened by the recent passing of a student. Counselors and district-level support staff, trained to help students, parents and school personnel at difficult times such as this, have been on-site at the impacted school today to provide assistance to students and staff in needed of support in processing this tragedy. The death of any young person is a tragic loss that impacts the whole school community, and we send our deepest condolences to the family.”

Eugenia Williams remembers her daughter as “alive, energetic, funny,” and said she loved to dance. Jimmie Williams said the suicide “came out of left field.”

“She just wanted to be your friend. She wanted to be everybody’s friend and wanted everyone to be happy,’’ he said. “We saw that in everything she did.”

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

 

drug abuse
Can Parents Lose Custody Over Legal Marijuana Use? Absolutely.

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Scientific research confirms that most people who smoke marijuana before they have kids still occasionally get high after they become parents, and anecdotal research confirms that THC can make pushing a stroller through the park chill as hell. It is also a relatively safe stimulant in that if parents don’t hide it effectively — it’s really not that hard, get a kid-proof containermarijuana poses no serious medical risk to children.

But for parents in the throesw of a divorce, moderate, responsible, and even legal pot use represents a very real hazard. Despite shifting cultural and legal norms, marijuana consumption can and does come up in custody negotiations.

“If it’s a really bitter divorce or separation, you may see one party that’s the non-marijuana user call Child Protective Services, or at the very least threaten to,” explains Nicholas Dowgul, a North Carolina-based divorce attorney.

There are two basic ways a parent can have their custodial rights compromised by marijuana use.

The first involves the intervention of Child Protective Services, which typically assesses a parent’s use after receiving a tip (one can guess where such tips come from).

The other, more common scenario is during a contentious divorce. Though this may vary slightly based on state laws, past cases suggest that marijuana can cause custody problems even when it’s legal.

In 2016, a California father who used medical marijuana prescribed by a doctor after a car accident petitioned for custody of his baby and was forced by CPS (acting on a tip) to take a drug test that he failed. Instead of going home with his dad, the child, who the mother could no longer care for, was put into foster care.
In another case, a grandmother in Maine who sought to obtain custody of her grandchildren was denied because she was using medical marijuana for back pain.

Those children have been in state custody for a year.

Still, there’s a limited amount of case law marijuana and custody issues, making outcomes hard to predict. In states where marijuana is illegal, if a complaint is lodged by the other parent as part of a custody dispute, that parent would not have to prove the drug endangered a child. In states where weed is legal, they presumably would have to prove harm or risk (driving under the influence, leaving marijuana where kids can access it, or abusing it to the point of mental instability).

Still, it’s hard to know exactly what that means in practice other than that it’s likely a smoker with a contentious relationship with a former partner would be subjected to a drug test.

Ultimately, Dowgul explains, it comes down to a judge’s discretion.

In states where weed is legal, they presumably would have to prove harm or risk (driving under the influence, leaving marijuana where kids can access it, or abusing it to the point of mental instability).

Still, it’s hard to know exactly what that means in practice other than that it’s likely a smoker with a contentious relationship with a former partner would be subjected to a drug test.

Ultimately, Dowgul explains, it comes down to a judge’s discretion.