Month: January 2016

Unconditional love


Every night at 8:00 pm he would call me.

Every night at 8pm
my world stopped.

No matter where I was
or what I was doing-
At 8pm, I was safe and sound at home, getting ready for bed.

He loved me.

I’d hang up the phone
and reconsider my life
as I rationalized the
lies I told him at 8pm.

Because sometimes I was not at home getting ready for bed.

I didn’t want him to worry about me.

I wanted him to sleep in peace.
They were good lies.

Then I remember you the first time that call didn’t come.

Near the end, he had the delicate skin of a fragile old man who shook from Parkinson’s. 

He had the most beautiful soul and spirit.

He was so frail and full of honesty and love.
84years of life and love he gave me.

He shared his wisdom-

The latter half of that life, he had held the purest and most perfect & unconditional love for me.

But one day, i would give anything to be able to tell him I am
safe and sound
at home, getting ready for bed.

He was tired and needed sleep.
He always told me he loved me more when I made mistakes because it was at those times I needed love more.

Love like his came from God.

Love like his was unconditional.

He knew unconditional love would help get me through the harder times in life.

We all need love too make it through this life.

I was an imperfect daughter.

I was human and I would surely make mistakes, we all do.

Mistakes are there for us to learn from and human beings are always reinventing ourselves.

It didn’t mean I was a bad person, but that it was a bad time.

Making mistakes didn’t mean we aren’t still worthy of being loved.

It means we need more love.

He said no matter how old I got, or what happened,   I’d always be his little girl.

He loved me.

It was 8pm May 10;2010.
I knew his call wouldn’t come that night, he had passed away that morning.

I didn’t know what to do.

I stared at the phone all night.
I shouldn’t bother being near a phone, I told myself, but I had to, just in case, somehow, there was a way he could contact me from the other side.

We had promised to find the way, if it existed.

I didn’t cry though. Not then. Not yet.
I knew he was gone, and that he loved me.

I knew that his love was unconditional.

i knew love like hisw would never come to me from anyone else.

I knew he’d finally found peace in his sleep- that night and every night.

I knew he wouldn’t have to worry about me anymore.
I knew I’d never have to lie to him, even if it was a good lie.


Plano firefighter accused of fondling children neighbors at McKinney home

Chris Beattie,
Jan 8, 2016 

Courtesy of Collin County
Larry Edward Combest

A Plano firefighter was arrested this week and accused of fondling multiple children at his McKinney home.

Larry Edward Combest, 45, is charged with aggravated  indecency with a child and attempted indecency with a child for incidents that allegedly occurred at his home in recent months. He was subsequently charged with aggravated sexual assault of a child after detectives connected him to an offense from about 10 years ago in Wylie.

Combest, a lieutenant with Plano Fire-Rescue, has been placed on paid administrative leave pending the investigation.

On Dec. 10, a fellow Plano firefighter told detectives he believed Combest “could have possibly been inappropriately touching two young boys in his neighborhood,” according to an arrest warrant affidavit. The firefighter advised police that the boys’ stepmother could provide details.

The day before, McKinney Police had been notified of a child victim’s outcry alleging the abuse. Police determined that Combest, who has a child close in age to the victims, would occasionally watch the alleged victims overnight.

The two boys’ stepmother told detectives “something wasn’t right” about Combest, their neighbor, “freakishly controlling them and constantly texting them,” the affidavit states. The boys told her in late November that Combest forces them to sleep in his bed and touches them.

When the boys’ father stopped allowing them to go to Combest’s home, the suspect began begging the boys to come over and play with his sons, according to the affidavit.

In ensuing forensic interviews, one boy recounted how in October, while sleeping on Combest’s bed, he was awoken by Combest fondling him over his clothes at least three times. The other boy said Combest had “touched his bladder” aan his fingers down his back and touched his bare buttocks, according to the affidavit.

Police arrested Combest on Dec. 21 and charged him with indecency with a child. Upon his arrest, detectives tied him to “an additional offense” that happened in Wylie about 10 years ago, McKinney Police spokeswoman Officer Sabrina Boston stated in a release.

On Tuesday, police added an indecency with a child charge against Combest. He is being held at the Collin County jail on a total bond of $850,000.

Combest joined Plano Fire-Rescue in May 2002 after serving with the Corpus Christi Fire Department for more than five years. He is assigned to the Plano department’s Training Section.

McKinney Police is requesting anyone with relevant information to contact Detective Jason Pruett at

Children On Drugs

7.5% of Children 6-17 Given Psychotropic Medication

According to a study released by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention 7.5% of children ages 6-17 were prescribed medication for “emotional or behavioral difficulties” during a 6 month period from 2010-2011. More than half the parents of these children reported that the medication helped “a lot”.

In addition those children enrolled in Medicaid or Child Health Plus were more likely to be prescribed medication as were children whose families were 100% below the poverty line.

Male patients were prescribed medication significantly more than their female counterparts at a rate of 9.7% vs. 5.2%. …

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#PsychotropicMedications, #Youth

Parental Kidnapping Is Child Abuse

Parental child abduction is child abuse – reblogged from this site.

ABP World Group is a Global Security and Child Recovery Organization

Our intelligence and investigative capabilities combined with our ability to dispatch personnel to most locations in the world offers a safe and strategic solution to protecting what is most important to you, your child and/or children.

Unfortunately in the present climate, parental kidnapping occurs all too frequently and we are here to help you through what can be an extremely traumatic time.

We are aware that parental child abductions can be difficult to resolve but through the use of professional operatives we work hard to find a solution. We collaborate with numerous organizations to help return your child safely and as soon as possible.

ABP World Group’s successful recovery and reunification strategies rely on the use of all means available, including but not limited to:

Electronic forensic footprint investigationsIntelligence gatheringInformation specialistsCollecting evidenceSpecial surveillance opsDomestic supportInternational operationsSea/Land/Air transportGPS tracking

Although there are various civil remedies available to parents of abducted children, the challenges regarding parental abduction are enormous, including first and foremost, locating  the child.

Unfortunately for the majority of targeted parents, the financial burden involved in recovery and litigation falls upon their shoulders. With tens of thousands of children abducted by parents each year, the reality is that too many of these children never come home.  ABP World Group is dedicated to assisting those parents who need help in locating, rescuing, and returning  their abducted child home safely. We offer worldwide services regarding parental abduction or recovery
of children that has suffered from parental kidnapping.

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parental alienation syndrome
What it’s like to be left behind parent of a kidnapped child ..

The feeling is indescribable. I remember two things the most- the opinions and advice.

I can’t tell you how many times I heard “you know what I would do is… Blah blah blah” oe” if that happened to me, be I would. .”  You don’t know what you’d do until it does happen.You do not know how you’d react. You may react in ways you’d never imagine, do things you’d never expect yourself to do.

Then there was “well at least he wasn’t kidnapped by a stranger, he was kidnapped by a family member… One day you’ll reunite. .”

First of all he was taken away, without warning, maliciously, with no chance to say goodbye, stop it, or anything. Be the trauma in that is the same no matter who took him. The reunion .one day . Will never happen. The child that was taken will never return. He is gone, forever, and the adult who came back to me is not the eight year old child who went to church and never came home . He is a broken adult with trauma in his past that he carries from an 8 year old boys’ heart that will never trust the same way it did before. That adult who came back to me is damaged and I failed to protect him from that damage. The advice and opinions may be given with the best of intentions but to this day I still get angry thinking about it.

Read on to see what the experts say.-


Your Experience of Missing-Child Trauma

Your child has been kidnapped or is missing, and here on the internet you’ll find a lot of valuable support, legal information, and contacts. However, there will be many difficult hours where you will feel very much alone — and this page is meant to help you get through those times.

Most child kidnappings involve a parent or relative as kidnapper, and that is the experience of our family. However, if your situation is different — the child has been kidnapped by a stranger, or is missing due to other circumstances (such as a runaway) — this page will speak to your experiences too, so please read on…

Parental Abduction – How it`s like to be THE LEFT-BEHIND PARENT –

Educational workshop for awareness in parental abduction of children

International Parental Abduction specialists team up with left behind parents to present educational… –

the conference will include the following topics:


Philip Stahl, PhD, ABPP

Complexities of Relocation in Separation and Divorce

Relocation cases are among the most difficult in family law. This presentation will focus on both risk and protective factors, as well the limited research available regarding relocation. Dr. Stahl will also address how Courts, mediators, evaluators, consultants, and attorneys can work together to help parents solve difficult problems regarding relocation. 

Hon. Helen Sturm

Relocation from the Judicial Perspective

This presentation will begin with a brief summary of the Tropea case, which sets forth the factors that are to be considered in New York State relocation cases. Judge Sturm will then discuss two cases she decided, one an application by a parent to relocate to Texas with 2 young children, and the other an application to relocate to Australia with an infant.

Parental Alienation

Linda Gunsberg, PhD  

Parental Alienation: Clinical Issues

It is essential for psychotherapists of children, adolescents and adults to understand both the parental influences and the child/adolescent contributions to the destructive phenomenon referred to as Parental Alienation. Therapists who work with adults need to be familiar with how a mother or father may be fostering or stimulating alienation of the child from the other parent. The adult patient may be the alienating parent or the alienated parent. Dr. Gunsberg will discuss techniques that can help therapists elicit information about the parent’s contribution to Parental Alienation, as well as treatment and psychoeducational interventions that are useful in Parental Alienation cases.

Melissa Fenton, MBA

Resilience in the Face of Parental Alienation

This presentation will focus on Ms. Fenton’s experience of being an alienated parent, and the knowledge she has gained of the New York City Family Court System and the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act laws (UCCJEA).

Parental Child Abduction

Colin Jones, JD, LLM

Family Law for Whom? Why Japan is Different

This talk about Japanese family law will likely challenge some basic Western assumptions about the role of law and courts in family-related matters, and will offer a better understanding of the problems of child abduction in Japan.

Samuel Lui, JD

Dead Dad Walking: Moving on in Life without Your Child Who Depended 

on You

Child abduction coupled with parental alienation is one of the worst kinds of domestic violence against both the child and the left-behind parent. The left-behind parent continues to think and care about his child, but there is nothing he can do. He never gets any news about the welfare of his child, causing continuous anxiety. Other people are expecting him to function and work on a regular basis like a normal person. However, the trauma of losing his child lingers in his mind. He is like a man whose purpose in life has been stolen from him.  Mr. Lui will share what it is like to live like this for the past 16 years.

Brian Prager, MA

Erasure of the Father: Coercive Practices, Corrosive Effects in Japanese International Parental Child Abduction

Erasure of the father, the expulsion of a caregiving natural parent from the lives of young children, is epidemic in Japan. Today, roughly three million children in Japan have meager-to-no contact with one parent after divorce, due to the absence of parental rights and protection of the parent-child relationship in family law. This induces parental child abduction, and also the disappearance of parents who despair the loss of the close bonds they previously had with their children. Mr. Prager will highlight factors contributing to the devastation and bereavement suffered by overmatched parents who lose their children to parental abduction in an unresponsive institutional environment.

Ellen B. Holtzman, JD Moderator

Conference educational objectives 

Be able to define and describe relocation, parental alienation, and parental child abduction in nuanced legal and psychological terms Understand the specific losses in the parent – child relationship as a result of relocation, parental alienation, and parental child abduction Become knowledgeable regarding the legal, treatment, and psychoeducational options available to families facing relocation, parental alienation, and parental child abduction

Bios of Presenters

Philip Stahl is a forensic psychologist in private practice, living in Maricopa County, Arizona. His current area of specialty is relocation cases, including complex international relocations . He provides consultation and expert witness testimony in child custody litigation throughout the United States, and conducts child custody evaluations. His teaching includes trainings throughout the United States and internationally for attorneys, child custody evaluators, and judges. He is on the faculty of the National Judicial College, is a Specialist Provider in Family Law for the California State Bar, and is Adjunct Faculty at Arizona Summit Law School (Phoenix). Dr. Stahl is an Invited Speaker at the Family Law and Family Forensics Training Program, Washington Square Institute. Dr. Stahl has written extensively in the area of high conflict divorce for over 25 years. His latest works are: Forensic Psychology Consultation in Child Custody Litigation: A Handbook for Work Product Review, Case Preparation, and Expert Testimony (2013); Emerging Issues in Relocation Cases (2014); and Analysis in Child Custody Evaluation Reports: A Crucial Component (2014). Dr. Stahl’s child custody evaluation was cited by the California Supreme Court in its landmark decision modifying 8 years of relocation case law following Burgess (In re Marriage of LaMusga (2004) 32 Cal.4th 1072, 12 Cal.Rptr.3d 356, 88 P.3d 81).

Judge Sturm received her JD, with Honors, from Brooklyn Law School in 1976, and began her career in the New York County District Attorney’s Office. In 1983, Judge Sturm relocated to New Mexico where she was Chief of the Medicaid Fraud Unit in the New Mexico Attorney General’s Office. In 1988, Judge Sturm returned to New York and to the District Attorney’s Office where she remained until she was appointed to the bench in 1999.

During the years she served as an Assistant District Attorney, Judge Sturm was the Bureau Chief of the Juvenile Crimes Bureau, created the first Child Abuse Unit, and tried numerous homicide and related cases. As a judge, she was assigned to Family Court where she presided over thousands of custody, visitation and family offense matters. Judge Sturm is currently the Administrative and Compliance Manager for the Mt. Sinai Hospital Adolescent Health Care Unit, maintains a private practice in Divorce Mediation and Consultation, and is an Administrative Law Judge with the New York State Comptroller’s Office where she hears and determines matters relating to pension entitlements.

Linda Gunsberg is Chair of the Family Law and Family Forensics Training Program at Washington Square Institute. She created this program almost 20 years ago, with the goal of training mental health professionals, attorneys for children, matrimonial attorneys, and judges from an interdisciplinary perspective. Within family litigation, Dr. Gunsberg has served as a forensic expert on issues such as divorce, child custody and parenting plans, grandparents rights, relocation, parental alienation, parental child abduction, child abuse (sexual, physical, and emotional), battered woman syndrome and domestic violence, Hague Convention cases, and adoption. She works within the United States and internationally. Dr. Gunsberg conducts and supervises forensic evaluations, consults with attorneys for children regarding child interviews, is a trial consultant to legal teams (domestic and international) and conducts work product reviews of child custody evaluations. She also is a parent coordinator, parent – child facilitator, and facilitator for a support group for alienated parents. Dr. Gunsberg was past Clinical and Research Director for Take Root, the only organization in the United States for adults who were parentally abducted as children. She is Co-Chair since 1999 of the Psychoanalysis and Law Discussion Group of the American Psychoanalytic Association. Dr. Gunsberg has co-edited and written chapters in the volumes, A Handbook of Divorce and Custody: Forensic, Developmental, and Clinical Perspectives (2005), and Fathers and Their Families (1989). She has co-edited and contributed to the monographs for Psychoanalytic Inquiry, The Psychoanalyst in the Courtroom (2009), and The Adoption Journey (2010). She has lectured on numerous forensic topics, most recently the best interests of the child, parental alienation, factors critical to the child/adolescent’s paradoxical preference to live with the batterer in child custody cases, and complex issues regarding overnights for infants and toddlers. Dr. Gunsberg is also in private practice where she sees children of all ages, and adults. She feels very fortunate that her work as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst is informed by forensic issues.

Melissa Fenton is a Fundraising, Event and Communications consultant within non-profit and corporate sectors.  She has served as the Chief Development and Communications Officer and interim Chief Financial Officer with charter schools; and a Principal Strategy Consultant with PricewaterhouseCoopers, assisting Fortune 500 companies and higher education. She was the Executive Director of City Lights Youth Theatre, a non-profit organization that offers after-school, in-school and summer theater classes and productions to young people in New York City, ages 3-19. She has produced several theater based discussions on topics facing youth such as gun and school violence, persecution for sexual orientation, and the challenges of assimilation after immigration. Ms. Fenton has worked in the Frauds Bureau in the Manhattan District Attorney’s Office as a trial preparation assistant, dealing with white collar crime, sex crimes and racketeering cases.

Colin Jones is Professor of Law, Doshisha Law School, Kyoto, Japan. He is author of the book, The Child Abduction Problem: How the Japanese legal system tears parents and children apart ( 2011). He also has written the following academic articles: 19th century rules over 21st reality – legal parentage under Japanese law, Family Law Quarterly (2015); Will the child abduction treaty become more “Asian”? A first look at the efforts of Singapore and Japan to implement the Hague Convention, Denver Journal of International Law & Policy (2014); No more excuses: Why recent penal code amendments should (but probably won’t) stop international parental child abduction to Japan, Whittier Journal of Child and Family Advocacy (2007); and, In the Best Interests of the Court: What American lawyers need to know about child custody and visitation in Japan, Asia-Pacific Law and Policy Journal (2007).

Sam Lui has a B.A. in Japanese Language and Literature from University of California, Irvine and his J.D. from Hofstra University School of Law. He is currently working for Manhattan Legal Services as an attorney in the areas of family and immigration law.

Brian Prager has an M.A. in Applied Linguistics and Education from the University of Texas at Austin. He is a Left-Behind-Parent whose young son disappeared into Japan in a scripted, pre-meditated parental abduction in June, 2010. He participated in the United States Department of State Town Hall Meetings in 2011 and 2012 on Japanese International Parental Child Abduction (JIPCA). Mr. Prager submitted testimony to the United States House of Representatives Committee on Foreign Affairs in 2011 regarding International Child Abduction. He also has been a participant in left-behind-parent organizations such as Bring Abducted Children Home (BAC-HOME) and Kizuna – Child Parent Reunion (Kizuna-CPR). Presently, he teaches at the City University of New York.

Ellen B. Holtzman concentrates her practice in domestic relations and has represented clients in all aspects of matrimonial and family law, including parental alienation, relocation and parental child abduction. Recently she was successful as the lead attorney in a Hague Convention case, and the decision was upheld on appeal. Ms. Holtzman has frequently lectured at Continuing Legal Education programs on Representing Domestic Violence Victims in Matrimonial Actions. For the Center for Safety and Change, she also educates attorneys in the techniques of representing battered women in divorce proceedings. Ms. Holtzman was a panelist at the American Psychoanalytic Association on The Intersection between Legal, Psychological and Judicial Concepts of Best Interests of the Child’ (2012), and a panelist at the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis on Where are We Now Regarding the Best Interests of the Child Standard? – The Interface between Legal, Judicial and Psychoanalytic Perspectives (2013). Ms. Holtzman is a past President of the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York (WBASNY) and is presently President of the Women’s Bar Foundation of WBASNY. She is the 2007 recipient of the Association’s Joan E. Ellenbogen Founder’s Award and she was honored by the Rockland County Women’s Bar Association with the Belle Mayer Zeck Award . She is Director of Legal Training at the Family Law and Family Forensics Training Program, Washington Square Institute.