Month: November 2013

parental alienation syndrome
Poisoned Hearts – How Parental Alienation Hurts

I am going to focus my attention for a while on Parental Alienation Syndrome. I encourage comments and ideas from the readers.

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(From Wikipedia):Parental alienation syndrome was a term coined by child psychiatrist Richard A. Gardner.  He defines Parental Alienation Syndrome as “a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against the parent, a campaign that has no justification. The disorder results from the combination of indoctrinations by the alienating parent and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of the alienated parent.”(ref:Gardner, RA (2001). “Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS): Sixteen Years Later”Academy Forum 45 (1): 10–12. Retrieved 2009-03-31.)

Parental Alienation is child abuse and a hate crime of the worst kind – with the consequences primarily going to the child that the alienating parent is trying to estrange from the targeted parent.

I can tell you, as the ‘target parent’ – the pain is deep.  There is no words to describe it.  There is such extensive damage done, to both the child and parent, that to heal seems impossible.  Where do we start? How do we start to heal when the alienating parent (or grandparent in my case) still has control of the child, still alienates the child, and does not want anything to change? Now, my child isn’t even a child anymore – he is an adult. So he is no longer part of any custody agreements or court rulings. There is no custody modification possible. There is no reversal of court orders possible.

It is over.  Or is it?

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I waited ten years after I realized no matter what I did, how hard I fought, or what happened, I would not win custody of my son back. I had to give up eventually or it was going to kill me.  I eventually had to accept that it would be his adulthood that I would have to wait for. So I did just that – I waited.

I imagined for years how it would go – his 18th birthday. I imagined what it would be like to have his birthday party take place, with his custodial family present and I show up – to their dismay- and how my son would run to me, because he could.

I imagined how after that day we would be best friends. How he would call me for advice or to share good news with me. I imagined how he would come to stay with me, and we would talk all night about the good times, and cry together over the bad.

I imagined so many things we could do together. I never imagined there would be silence on his end. I never imagined I would call on his 18th birthday and he wouldn’t answer. I never imagined emails would go ignored, chats would not be initiated. I never imagined he was so alienated from me that even though he’s old enough now to decide for himself, she still controls him.

The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Syndrome by Gardner, Sauber, and Lorandos, has become the standard reference work for PAS. The International Handbook features clinical, legal, and research perspectives from 32 contributors from eight countries.

I never imagined that my son might hate me – or that I would wonder if he really does hate me. My gut tells me he doesn’t, but I have not heard from him, so maybe I am wrong.

I never imagined this pain might last forever.

What do I do now? How do I reach him? Do I wait for him? Do I find a seminar to attend? Do I drag my entire extended family to some weekend camp retreat where we make clay sculptures and have group sessions about our dysfunctional family and how its come so far between me and my son that he’s out of control. I cannot believe or understand how my brothers, my child’s uncles, have allowed this alienation to take place, and now that the deleterious effects are shining through they are ‘washing their hands of it’ – frustrated at the results of their inaction. WELL WHAT DID YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN?

 I have to fight the demon that tells me i want to  commit suicide when I think about the idea that my son may hate me for real and we may never heal. I have to fight the demon that gives me so much rage that I cannot take out against anyone but myself. I have to fight to forget everything I don’t want to remember, but then I am afraid to forget too much. I don’t know anymore, I just want to know my son again. I want him to be okay.

How do we fix the damage that’s been done?

I am going to include articles about PAS that I found from around the web here, and ask that anyone out there who has something to say, please do.  I need to know how to fix this. It hurts.

                                                                  

PAS RESOURCES AND LINKS

 (source: http://www.pasattorney.com/pas-resources-links.htm)
Parental Alienation Awareness Organization (PAAO)
PAAO is dedicated to educating the general public, schools, police, counselors, and religious leaders on the subjects of Hostile Aggressive Parenting and Parental Alienation Syndrome. To achieve its goal, PAAO uses not only seminars and conferences to disseminate information, but also actively collects information. The PAAO website is clean, well organized, and highly informative.
Breakthrough Parenting
Breakthrough Parenting is a California-based organization that offers both classes and counseling on child custody, co-parenting, parenting plans, and parental alienation. The Breakthrough Parenting website offers several interesting books for sale. The executive director of Breakthrough Parenting, Jayne Major, PhD, has also put up an informative article entitled “Parents who have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation” that can be downloaded for free in PDF format.
PsyCare
This no-frills but highly popular website describes itself this way: “PsyCare hopes to address issues that are not always popular or politically correct. Instead, we want to stimulate debate and research on important issues affecting today’s families[,] to learn from other’s experiences and try to influence social policies based on empirical research and objective findings.” Highly informative and contains links to many other high-quality PAS websites.
Parental Alienation Syndrome
Florida psychologist Dr. J. Michael Bone has put up a solid website that deals with both parental alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome. Dr. Boone has provided a number links to some highly informative sources.
Help Stop PAS
“Help Stop PAS is a non-profit organization dedicated to fostering healthy, rational, supportive and sustainable relationships between parents and their children during and after divorce. Our mission is to educate parents, extended family, law practitioners, clergy, medical and mental health professionals to recognize the signs and symptoms of parent alienation in order to intervene, in the appropriate discipline, and to reduce the occurrence of parent alienation. We also seek to obtain funding to promote and perform research projects aimed at providing new information about the appropriate professional definitions of, and the legal and mental health effects of parent alienation.” Another very solid website.
Parental Alienation Information Network (PAIN)
Far from painful, Dr. Glenn Cartwright’s site is a great no-nonsense PA and PAS information source.
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FBI searching for unidentified child porn suspect

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Child abuse and porn suspect known as “Jimmy” is wanted by the FBI.

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The FBI is looking for a man portrayed in videos being distributed in forums on the internet. The unknown suspect was shown engaging in sexually explicit activities with a child and officials are looking for any help in finding him. The videos were found in April in online child pornography forums.

Some of the images show a ring on the man’s right ring finger as well as a distinct plaid chair. The man has male patterned baldness, and dark hair.

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Based on the audio, the suspect may refer to himself as “Jimmy.” The man speaks with a southern accent but the videos provide no clue to his location.

Anyone with information on this suspect or this case is urged to contact the FBI.

To give a tip, call 1-800-CALL-FBI or submit a tip online at https://tips.fbi.gov.

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The hacker and activist group Anonymous is going after the troubled teen industry
By , Deseret News
Published: Monday, Nov. 11 2013 6:45 p.m. MST
Updated: 31 minutes ago

The hacker and activist group Anonymous is going after the troubled teen industry and zeroed in on a Utah school — the Logan River Academy — alleging abuse of children because of its alleged use of solitary confinement on its clients.

LOGAN — The hacker group Anonymous reportedly has the troubled teen industry on its cyber hit list, zeroing in on the Logan River Academy on Monday in a campaign that asserts abuse of its underage clients.

A Twitter storm on social media with the hashtag “ShutLoganRiver” was active on Monday, drawing on allegations that the Utah school uses prolonged solitary confinement, called “development” time, as a way to punish noncompliance with school rules.

Anonymous is a loose and elusive online collective of people around the world who call themselves “hacktivists,” responding at varying scales to perceived social injustices.

Logan River Academy issued a statement Monday denying allegations of illegal or unsafe conduct, calling the information being shared online “false, inaccurate and misleading.”

“Students are not isolated, secluded, abused or mistreated in any way,” the statement said. “To the contrary, students facing an acute and temporary crisis receive increased supervision and support during the crisis to protect them and others and to best provide for their well-being.”

Participants in the Twitter conversation shared testimonials reportedly posted by family and participants criticizing the program.

“We actually chose to send our son to Logan River Academy after paying an experienced educational consultant who highly recommended it. The decision was the worst we have ever made,” wrote someone claiming to be parents from Fairfax, Va. “We pulled our son after only five months, the last three of which were spent primarily in ‘devo’ (solitary).”

“I was a victim of this program. I was mentally tortured and (still) have a scar that will never go away,” wrote one person who identified himself as a Texas resident.

On its website, the academy describes itself as having experience and success at helping youths 12-18 with autism spectrum disorders, ADHD, anxiety and substance abuse issues, to name a few.

The group is urging that people demand AdvancEd drop the school’s educational accreditation and is directing followers to put pressure on Logan Mayor Randy Watts and Utah Gov. Gary Herbert to stop the use of methods it describes as abuse.

The campaign, which builds on a petition on change.org, describes a multibillion-dollar troubled youth industry that charges parents thousands of dollars of month for “treatment” programs that are carried out under little government oversight or scrutiny.

The petition appeared in early October, passing 200 signatures by the end of the month. From there it picked up speed and had about 870 signatures Monday night.

Utah, the change.org campaign said, is a state “where there is comparable lack of oversight and relevant legislation to safeguard vulnerable students in residential programs.”

The troubled youth industry and its robust Utah presence has been the genesis of controversy for years, at times prompting calls for reform.

Nearly a decade ago, Utah licensing officials and watch-dog organizations were urging more oversight for these private programs to ensure that “discipline” doesn’t amount to abuse.

Contributing: McKenzie Romero

Email: amyjoi@deseretnews.com

Twitter: amyjoi16

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The hacker and activist group Anonymous is going after the troubled teen industry
By , Deseret News
Published: Monday, Nov. 11 2013 6:45 p.m. MST
Updated: 31 minutes ago

The hacker and activist group Anonymous is going after the troubled teen industry and zeroed in on a Utah school — the Logan River Academy — alleging abuse of children because of its alleged use of solitary confinement on its clients.

LOGAN — The hacker group Anonymous reportedly has the troubled teen industry on its cyber hit list, zeroing in on the Logan River Academy on Monday in a campaign that asserts abuse of its underage clients.

A Twitter storm on social media with the hashtag “ShutLoganRiver” was active on Monday, drawing on allegations that the Utah school uses prolonged solitary confinement, called “development” time, as a way to punish noncompliance with school rules.

Anonymous is a loose and elusive online collective of people around the world who call themselves “hacktivists,” responding at varying scales to perceived social injustices.

Logan River Academy issued a statement Monday denying allegations of illegal or unsafe conduct, calling the information being shared online “false, inaccurate and misleading.”

“Students are not isolated, secluded, abused or mistreated in any way,” the statement said. “To the contrary, students facing an acute and temporary crisis receive increased supervision and support during the crisis to protect them and others and to best provide for their well-being.”

Participants in the Twitter conversation shared testimonials reportedly posted by family and participants criticizing the program.

“We actually chose to send our son to Logan River Academy after paying an experienced educational consultant who highly recommended it. The decision was the worst we have ever made,” wrote someone claiming to be parents from Fairfax, Va. “We pulled our son after only five months, the last three of which were spent primarily in ‘devo’ (solitary).”

“I was a victim of this program. I was mentally tortured and (still) have a scar that will never go away,” wrote one person who identified himself as a Texas resident.

On its website, the academy describes itself as having experience and success at helping youths 12-18 with autism spectrum disorders, ADHD, anxiety and substance abuse issues, to name a few.

The group is urging that people demand AdvancEd drop the school’s educational accreditation and is directing followers to put pressure on Logan Mayor Randy Watts and Utah Gov. Gary Herbert to stop the use of methods it describes as abuse.

The campaign, which builds on a petition on change.org, describes a multibillion-dollar troubled youth industry that charges parents thousands of dollars of month for “treatment” programs that are carried out under little government oversight or scrutiny.

The petition appeared in early October, passing 200 signatures by the end of the month. From there it picked up speed and had about 870 signatures Monday night.

Utah, the change.org campaign said, is a state “where there is comparable lack of oversight and relevant legislation to safeguard vulnerable students in residential programs.”

The troubled youth industry and its robust Utah presence has been the genesis of controversy for years, at times prompting calls for reform.

Nearly a decade ago, Utah licensing officials and watch-dog organizations were urging more oversight for these private programs to ensure that “discipline” doesn’t amount to abuse.

Contributing: McKenzie Romero

Email: amyjoi@deseretnews.com

Twitter: amyjoi16

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John Quinn was shot by the police, then found innocent

This article is a bit dated, published October 28th, 2011 in the Collin County Observer. However, I just read it today, and found it interesting enough to pass along.
Source: http://www.baumbach.org/b2evolution/blogs/index.php/2011/10/28/john_quinn_was_shot_by_the_police_then_f
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John Gerard Quinn was charged with aggravated assault of a public official for pointing a gun at the police when the McKinney SWAT team raided his house in the middle of the night. His conviction could have resulted in a life sentence.

Yesterday, a jury in Judge Chris Oldner’s 416th District Court found Quinn innocent after an eight-day trial.

In the early hours of August 5, 2006 a McKinney SWAT team crashed into and raided his house looking for narcotics. McKinney Officer Jesus Damain Guerrero said that when he saw Quinn standing with a gun in his hand Guerrero fired several shots with one bullet hitting Quinn in his right hand.

The officer explained that he shot Quinn in response to Quinn raising his gun at the him.

Quinn was taken to Parkland Hospital where he was treated and then booked into the Collin County jail. He was charged with two charges of aggravated assault on a public servant and possession of a controlled substance. Quinn posted a $150,000 bond on August 6th.

In February of 2007 the grand jury no-billed Officer Guerrero. And in April of 2007 a grand jury returned indictments against Quinn on a first degree felony charge of aggravated assault on a public servant and a felony indictment of possession of a controlled substance.

At the trial, Quinn charged that the police were covering up their actions. The jury did not believe the officer’s story – finding Quinn innocent.

However, in the narcotics charge, the jury found Quinn guilty of less than 1 gram of drugs. Judge Oldner gave Quinn a sentence of 180 days, probated for two years, and including a fine of $500.

John Quinn is an executive who moved into McKinney several years ago. Quinn lives with his son, Brian, who is in his 20’s, and his girlfriend. After the raid, Brian was charged with manufacturing and delivery of a controlled substance (between 28 g and 200 g). Brian’s case has not yet come to trial.

Was this incident the whole story?

Blind JusticeSome believe the police raid began with a divorce in 1991.

John Quinn sued for a divorce from Laurie Quinn Houston on charges that she was having an extra-marital affair. Quinn was given custody of his two children but several years later, their daughter moved in with her mother. Several times, the mother asked the court to amend the child support agreement. In a nasty prolonged fight Quinn charged that Houston and her daughter lived in a ‘questionable lifestyle’ that was a charged sexual environment.

This divorce became an ugly, sordid battle involving the children. In response to Quinn’s allegations, Houston told the authorities that their daughter told her that Quinn molested her when she was about six or eight years old. Quinn alleged that the “troubled minds’ of his former wife and daughter “concocted a scheme to either get more money from him or divert attention from his daughter’s troubles”.

In 2004, Houston filed a complaint with Denton County Child Protective Services alleging that Quinn had raped his daughter. Denton CPS investigated, including taping interviews with the daughter. Child Protection told the authorities that they were “unable to determine” the rape allegations. In September, the Denton County legal authorities also dropped the investigation saying that they were unable to make a determination.

Unhappy with the progress of the Denton investigation, Houston also filed the same complaint at the McKinney police department. The Denton authorities did tell the McKinney Police that they believed there was no credible evidence, but the Collin County District Attorney went ahead issued an arrest warrant for Quinn four days after Denton dismissed the charges.

The Collin County charges languished. After a fifteen-month delay, the Collin County grand jury no-billed Quinn only after he had successfully been given a writ of habeas corpus by Collin County former Judge Betty Caton.

In March of 2006, Quinn filed a complaint in the Federal Court in the Eastern District of Texas suing DA John Roach, Sr., several individuals in the District Attorney’s Office and the McKinney Police Department (as individuals and in their official capacities). His suit claimed that the county and McKinney denied him his constitutional rights. In his complaint, Quinn wrote, “This case tells a story of deception, immorality, greed, incompetence, and pain that is difficult to believe could actually happen in 21th century America under the watchful eyes of supposedly-well-trained public servants. But it did.”

Five months after Quinn sued the police and DA, the McKinney police smashed his door down, shot him and charged him with 2 counts of assault that could lock him up for life.

The DA did ask federal court to dismiss the suit under his privilege under immunity from suits. On March 7, 2007 the court refused to dismiss the suit, but did give the DA immunity “in his individual capacity”, not in his “official capacity”. But after another motion by the DA a Federal Magistrate dismissed the suit on December 21, 2007, writing, “This is in essence a divorce and child custody case gone bad.” The judge confirmed the dismissal, the 5th Circuit Court affirmed, and the US Supreme Court refused to hear the case.

In July of 2008, Quinn has filed another suit – this time in the 429th District Court. This suit is against the McKinney police for shooting him. But this case has also been moved to the federal court. In January of 2010, the court also put this case on ice until the criminal case is resolved.

The federal court gave notice that if Quinn was found guilty, his suit would be dismissed.

Since a jury has now vindicated John Quinn, he can now move forward with his life and his suit against the McKinney police.

Bill

This entry was posted on October 28th, 2011 at 12:29:40 pm and is filed under Observer Opinions, Law, Crime & Punishment, City Hall.
11 comments
Comment from: Terrill [Visitor] Email
– I love getting the whole story Thanks Bill. And now I want to know what can we as citizens do when the officials within the system go bad and attack citizens legally or personally like this?
10/28/11 @ 15:35
Comment from: Truth Be Told [Visitor] Email
1) It sounds like the McKinney Police Department was serving a search warrant for narcotics. The police need probable cause to do this. So, what was the probable cause?

2)Juries do not find defendants “innocent”. They render a verdict of either guilty or not guilty. Our justice system is designed to give every benefit to the accused. There have been innocent people wrongly convicted, but far more guilty people get set free by juries.

3)When the McKinney SWAT Team came “crashing” into Mr. Quinn’s home I would assume they wore there standard attire with the word “POLICE” all over their clothing. I would also assume they yelled,”Police. Search warrant,” prior to entering the home. If they did not, perhaps it was a “no-knock” warrant, meaning they had probable cause to believe that it would endanger their lives by doing so (i.e. they’re guns and drugs inside).

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The Observer comments:

I agree that the law requires that police need “probable cause to endanger their lives….”. But the practice is closer to the truth that a ‘rubber-stamp’ Collin County judge will give the police what the say, with or without “probable cause”.

Heck, since almost every police department feels they need a SWAT team complete with a quasi-military team armored complete with snipers, machine guns and grenades.

….. and since they now have a SWAT team, “well lets give the SWAT group something to do!”

Bill
10/29/11 @ 10:25
Comment from: 4 MPD Barney Fife’s [Visitor]
4 Truth Be Told

The SWAT team in this case threw 3 deadly stun grenades into that home and set it ablaze. They shot Mr. Quinn according to their own recordings in 4.5 seconds after the attack signal was given. The stun grenades are specifically designed to emit 185dB’s (check out OSHA sound level standards)8 million candella of light, tons of smoke and heat. Federal courts have ruled that these devices are deadly and are in fact STUN GRENADES – not “firecrackers” as the MPD testified. The effect is to make it impossible for their victims to hear, see, orientate or understand what is happening.

This is the second MPD SWAT attack involving the shooting of a citizen where upon the MPD’s own records and sworn testimony shows they stun grenaded themselves during the attack and then in panic opened up wild fire.

And it’s the second documented time they’ve been caught in a Blue Code Of Silence coverup conspiracy.

There was no probable cause this was a retaliation for them being sued for clearly breaking the law. They admit they broke the law – but you see, unlike any other profession in America they have given themselves legal immunity from thier crimes and thus have no accountability.

You really need to quit believing the hype and start researching the facts and the cost/benefit ratio of wasted tax dollars on Militarized Police forces.

Our community is in danger due to these crminal/inept boys with military toys.

And remember, the same thing can happen to any one of the residents of our community at any time. Next time it could be you or somebody you know or love. When that occurs, please write and tell us all what your “opinion” is.
10/29/11 @ 15:25
Comment from: Tim Baker [Visitor] Email
“3)When the McKinney SWAT Team came “crashing” into Mr. Quinn’s home I would assume they wore there standard attire with the word “POLICE” all over their clothing. I would also assume they yelled,”Police. Search warrant,” prior to entering the home.”

What’s to prevent a group of criminals from doing this?
10/29/11 @ 19:01
Comment from: anon [Visitor] Email
Interesting…an alleged pedophile in Collin County goes free and decides to sue. Then gets busted for drugs and whines that he gets shot in a drug raid. Pedophiles are roaming free all over Collin County and you’re going to turn this into the COPS are the bad guys on this one? Many times, I’d agree. But whenever there’s a pedophile involved, I ask, why did the cops not just finish the job?
10/31/11 @ 14:13
Comment from: Texas Commentator [Visitor] Email
As a forty-plus year resident of McKinney, Texas, I am very saddened to read stories such as this. Through the years, I have personally known many fine officers in the McKinney Police department. In most cases such as this, it is not the bottom line ground troops at fault for this behavior, but the higher ranking officers in charge of the department who in some cases were rejects from the Dallas Police Department. Over twenty-five years ago there was the case of many top line officers being charged with falsing arrests of suspected drug sellers in Dallas. It was found that the evidence was actually baking power placed as evidence against these suspected and arrested individuals. Sadly for McKinney, Texas, many of these top of-the-heap officers, left the Dallas Police Department and came to the McKinney Police Department before actual charges for falsifying evidence came before them. As a well respected business man told me, many years ago, “A Fish stinks from the head down.”
11/02/11 @ 13:32
Comment from: Philip W. Moore, Jr. [Visitor] Email
Anon,

You say alleged, then wish the cop would have just killed the indisputably adjudicated innocent man who got shot by the police. All I can say to you is that I accuse you of being a pedophile, and that maybe you should get shot. Pretty easy to target you that way, isn’t it? Oh wait, you post your hate-filled diatribes anonymously.

-Philip
11/02/11 @ 22:32
Comment from: Philip Moore Jr. NOT [Visitor] Email
@Philip W. Moore, Jr.:

So PROUD to be a Texas with all those initials and “Jr” after your name aren’t you? Can’t stand the idea of being just one of The People, an anonymous person. Got to have a name – a name with initials and letters after the name. How arrogant you are…and so typical white male collin county too.

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The Collin County Observer recognized:

That you, Mr. Not is an anonymous jackass.

Bill
11/07/11 @ 16:08
Comment from: Philip W. Moore, Jr. [Visitor] Email
All I can say is that if you can’t put your name next to what you write, maybe you shouldn’t write anything.
11/08/11 @ 14:42
Comment from: Rick Koster [Visitor] Email
I find it troubling that police departments feel compelled to conduct an armed assault of a domicile for any alleged offense. In a lot of cases it would be quite reasonable for law enforcement to wait for suspects to leave for work, detain them in route and then enter the domicile without any fireworks.
I have a strong feeling that if police at a reasonable hour knocked on the door of most citizens without a violent criminal history, there would be little confrontation while executing a search warrant.

A lot of citizens arm themselves, in accordance with their right under the second amendment of the US constitution, to be prepared against a potential home invasion. How is a citizen to distinguish friend from foe during an midnight armed assault?

Are we destined to repeat the fiasco of Ruby Ridge and Waco’s Mt. Carmel?

Rick
11/11/11 @ 17:47
Comment from: Mya [Visitor] Email
People cannot call Mr. Quinn that. He is a good man and he wouldn’t do anyone harm. The police was wrong.
03/15/12 @ 16:40