As the targeted parent, I know far too well the pain and grief that comes along with losing your child to a mean, vile, vindictive, malicious ex. It only compounds the situation when the ex brainwashes the child into hating you, convinces the child you hate them, you neglected them, you never wanted them. Then to use the child as a way to continue the pain by constantly reminding you and teasing you and showing you that you will never be able to have a relationship with your child.